Are you a list writer?
In my corporate life BC (Before Children) I was a Facilities Manager and lots of my work involved project management. I was queen of the lists. I was permanently ticking things off my to do list and my other list off delegated to do's!
I think that part of the reason that I was susceptible to post natal depression was my perfectionist tendencies and also the unrealistic expectations I had of being a mum.
My to do lists today are very different than that of my previous life and yes I have a daily list but this is countered by my seasonal manifesto, which encourages a more positive way of living for me and encourages short term aims and goals.
So this is my tongue in cheek to do list for any new parent!
- I must stop thinking that I am in control. I will NEVER be in control of anything ever again
- I must add 30 minutes to any deadline or appointment as we are always late
- I must be prepared to eat my words. You know all that "I am never letting my child have a dummy", "behave like that" or be a fussy eater.
- I must not call my other half Daddy in public (even if I have forgot his name due to sleep deprivation)!
- The five second rule totally rocks
- Do not put the dummy in your mouth before passing it back to the baby once it has been dropped on the floor
- I must not wipe my babies face with spit on a tissue - yuk
One thing that was really important to me when we had Maxi was ensuring that we had ticked life insurance off our to do list (partly as I am married to an accountant, but mainly due to the irrational fear I had that I was going to die)!
So tell me what would you add to my list for any new parent to be?